tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post5833583232887381208..comments2023-07-16T02:13:13.322-07:00Comments on Singular Desire: "You've Got the Perfect Little Life"A Shadow of My Former Selfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09828440343398303476noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post-68000903229856392682012-07-05T15:34:43.500-07:002012-07-05T15:34:43.500-07:00I always get: "Are you sure you want kids?&qu...I always get: "Are you sure you want kids?" from those who of course have like 3 kids.Michaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post-28886735972380570942012-07-03T10:13:56.172-07:002012-07-03T10:13:56.172-07:00Good post -- I too can relate. I am sure that when...Good post -- I too can relate. I am sure that when you give them the good news they will be very happy for you.Sunflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12666376683383060063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post-76008301821634258192012-07-03T04:18:49.520-07:002012-07-03T04:18:49.520-07:00I know exactly what you mean. I often think how g...I know exactly what you mean. I often think how great it must look from the outside. I do what I want, when I want, for how long I want and until infertility raised it's ugly head I had money to do these things. From the outside it doesn't look lonely or like a dream has been denied.Paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03363407716857644014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post-26050198038453311962012-07-02T20:45:51.066-07:002012-07-02T20:45:51.066-07:00It's odd how perspective factors into life. B...It's odd how perspective factors into life. Because they miss freedom possible, they see the lack of responsibility as a good thing. Because we want the family and the responsibility, we see our lives as incomplete. I get it from some of my friends who don't want kids. My family knows nothing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post-38245152255152284722012-07-02T19:23:33.738-07:002012-07-02T19:23:33.738-07:00I can relate to this post only my folks have never...I can relate to this post only my folks have never said anything like that to me. They know about my journey and have experienced it with me. We are close. I think at this point my mom wants me to stop TTC because she sees what it's done to me.<br /><br />I hope, and believe, that your folks will be thrilled when you get pregant.Evelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01610058612859471189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3296876987111666179.post-28321474998779310752012-07-02T19:18:39.027-07:002012-07-02T19:18:39.027-07:00I can totally relate to this. I'm not close to...I can totally relate to this. I'm not close to any of my family (we talk and we do love each other, but it's a shallow connection in that they don't know my hopes and fears or really, ME) and have not shared any of our infertility or conception efforts as I am too afraid of being an object of ridicule and judged. <br /><br />For your dad and stepmom, I wonder if the idea of choosing to have kids wasn't even a choice - you have sex, you get married, kids just happen? I totally agree they are jealous of your freedom. Also the fact that you also have had time to really, really be your own self without being defined as a wife/mother is pretty amazing. I look back on myself in my teens/20s/30s and am blown away at how much I've changed, but looking at family and friends that married and had children early, their paths were restricted, and personal growth and life experience outside of those narrow parameters is practically nil. Mostly, they have not changed significantly in YEARS. I find that very, very sad.<br /><br />I do hope you get to make your announcement of a child to come soon, tho. And that they are thrilled and excited for you too.CandyGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10664818861874419334noreply@blogger.com