I guess this is how they see dependents. My dad just turned 70 and my stepmother is 12 years younger. My stepmother's grandson is staying with them this summer and they also have an adopted daughter who is 15 (she is the half-sister of the grandson but different father. They adopted her rather than see her go to foster care.). So yeah, maybe my life, without dependents, appears to be perfect to them.
To me however, it's not the life I want nor ever wanted. Like many I always thought I would have at least a couple of children. Now that I've been fighting for quite some time to have one, my life is far from perfect and in fact, is quite little (so that part of their assessment in true). I do not enjoy all of the joys and challenges of having a family. It's just me, and to them, that's perfection.
I guess there's also a generational difference. My stepmother had her first child as a teenager so to her children were, have been and will always be a burden. At this point my dad is too old and has health issues which prevent him from being a parenting parent.
My dad and his wife have no idea that I have been ttc-ing and I haven't formulated what I will say when/if that time comes. I know I will not be sharing the donor egg angle and am not sure what I will say about the "father". Although have a close relationship, it's rather shallow due to many issues from my childhood (a much, much longer story).
Also part of this disconnection in our relationship is their view of me as someone in suspended animation. I have not passed through many of the rites of passage that most adults pass through. My stepmother has never planned my bridal shower, my dad has never walked me down the aisle and I have never attended any family function as a married daughter with my own family. Thus, they still view me (and sometimes treat me) like a child. I guess it's only natural under the circumstances but it can be suffocating and irritating at times. I can only guess that any announcement I am ever lucky enough to make will shock the hell out of them.
I can only hope they will see this as my life and accept my choices and my path. I can only hope that should I ever become a parent I will do the same. That's what parents do, right?