No, not this kind (with all due respect to Dolly, I happen to like her very much).
It's been rolling around in my head for several months and I suppose I've gone through all of the "normal" stages that someone at this point of ttc-ing goes through. Disbelief, anger, denial, fear, shock then right back around to disbelief. How did I get here?
I suppose it doesn't matter at this point. I'm here.
I still have an IVF consult next week but I seriously doubt the good doctor is going to peer over his spectacles and give me and my decrepit eggs the same odds of success that donor eggs would get.
I want to be a mother. It's as basic as that.
"Find out who you are and do it on purpose." ~ Dolly Parton
If you are considering going that route, you might want to consider donor embryos too (for me it was a LOT more affordable).
ReplyDeletePlease let me know how I can support you as you know I've already gone double D a long time ago and can answer any questions. (turningofpaige@gmail.com) Believe me what you are feeling is the same I felt and it went round and round and round when I had to make that choice. I decided I was going to have an awesome family and it didn't matter how we came to be together.
ReplyDeleteIt's a difficult decision you face. Sending you positive thoughts.
ReplyDeleteWell, the good doctor couldn't give ANY fertility patient over the age of 30 those odds. But, yeah, in my case it was 5-30% vs. 80%. Logically, a no-brainer. Took the heart a little while to catch up.
ReplyDeleteBest decision I made, bar none. The result is sleeping next to me right now.
My doctor also suggested donor embryos would be cheaper (but the success rate is MUCH lower in most cases unless the egg came from a donor, not a fertility patient). Feel free to email me at gwinne at yahoo if you want to talk. There's also an unofficial SMC list for DE/DS mamas, which was really helpful to me.
It is a very hard and personal decision. I am not sure where in the country you live but I do have some clinic recommendations if you would like.
ReplyDeleteOr if you just want to talk email me!
asinglejourney@ymail.com
I haven't been in your exact situation, but am considering DE also, and am familiar with the emotions involved. It's hard. Good luck feeling your way through it all and coming to a decision.
ReplyDeleteHere to deliver the greyhound (the drink, not the dog).
ReplyDeleteI love how Gwinne put it above. It sounds like your brain is right there, ready to go. And it sounds like your heart is catching up too. Sending lots of good thoughts for this next appointment.