Planning, scheming, hoping and dreaming...my journey to motherhood as a single woman.
April 26, 2011
[dih-pree-shee-ey-shuh n]A decrease or loss in value, as because of age, wear, or market conditions.
I listen to talk radio a lot. I find it interesting and at times entertaining. This past weekend as I was driving around doing errands I listened to a talk show host discuss the issue of Medicare paying for the elderly who are incapable of having any significant quality of life. The debate was about how if these people can no longer contribute to Medicare then they should not be sustained by money funded by it.
Most callers found the idea of killing off these people simply because they were no longer "contributing" members of society abhorrent. Many people referred to the service these people had provided to the nation, many being of The Greatest Generation and how it was now that the nation must protect and care for them.
Then a woman (an RN no less) calls in and says that these elderly people are being unpatriotic by staying alive and that the money being spent to keep them alive would be better spent on people who need it more, like women with children who need transplants, chemo, etc.
After this comment the radio host had a field day (much to my delight). He asked the caller if she felt that women who had children were of more value to society than those without. She answered "yes" and said that it was universally known fact.
I don't think she's too far off in that statement...about this fact being universally known. I've been made to feel this way many times in my life.
As a woman without a child I am often made to feel I have a depreciated value to humankind. I won't even veer off into the older woman without a child issue because that would entail a rant on ageism and I just don't have it in me at the moment.
For example, today at work I met with my supervisor to discuss a program happening late on Thursday afternoon. I asked how the preparations were going since the director has been out ill and we only have Wednesday now to prepare. She asked how late I could stay on Wednesday. I said, "Why? Isn't ML coordinating this?". She replied, "She is but she has to leave at 4pm sharp. She has kids to pick up."
Oh, so what, my time is not as valuable because I don't have kids to pick up?
How many times have you heard a news story about missing women or injured women (yeah, nowadays not so infrequently) but then if she's PREGNANT or (second best) has kids, well then ALERT ALL SECTORS. Suddenly she has more value as a news story, more value as a person.
There have been many other instances when my time, my opinion, my health, my finances, my contribution and my feelings have been deemed to be of depreciated value simply because I do not have children.